In trying to “program” new beliefs into your mind, so as the CBT objective states, You have to do what is called thought stopping. That is what the therapists told me to do when I feel a fear thought pop in. But after 5 years of trying to recover from anxiety disorder, I’m realising that thought stopping is detrimental to anxiety disorder recovery. I have many reasons for this.
At the beginning stages of recovery, I would start battling with every thought that came into my mind. I would reject it out right and say, “no that is not true.” “I don’t have to believe that.” etc. So I would remain on guard internally constantly waiting for the next anxiety thought to pop up. This was an exhausting process. Many times, I got so exhausted from this, that I was looking forward to taking a “break” from anxiety recovery so I could relax!
Also, with knowing that Shaitan is in the mix, do you think Shaitan will stop bothering with his own waswaas and whispers and prodding’s if he sees that you are reacting so intensely and anxiously to every thought that he instigates? It’s clear that our enemy will see that it is bothering you and then add more fuel to the fire by bothering you more.
Lastly, and most importantly, by employing this “thought stopping” technique, you maybe closing off the doorways to your heart. You maybe locking up your heart further. Why is that important? Because beliefs are in the heart. Emotions are in the heart. They are not in the mind as psychology has falsely assumed. Psychology has dismissed the role of the heart in the human being. So when you try to shut up every thought that comes off to you, and you try to cover up every negative emotion that you feel, and tell yourself not to feel that, or not to think that, you are sealing up the most precious part of your existence. You close off the gateway to who YOU are. You seal off the avenues to changing your beliefs. The beliefs are stored in the heart, and when you deny, cover up, and try to compensate for these feelings of hurt and don’t validate the thoughts, you will never be able to penetrate the heart with what is real, and you will remain divided, with logically accepting something as true, but your emotional self rejecting it, and you remaining confused as to why the divide remains.
There is much more to say on the topic of the heart, and the heart-brain connection, and stay tuned for much more insha’Allah. I love to ramble about my reflections and observations on the issue. Let me know your thoughts ladies and gentlemen.