As we start to learn that Allah actually cares about us, and that Allah sent down the Quran as an act of love to help guide us to the reality, we start emotionally becoming attached to the book. Allah is well aware of the emotional problems we have faced and we still are dealing with. Allah is well in touch with these nuanced quirks we are dealing with in our self esteem problems and anxieties.
One of these personal quirks is a lacking respect for yourself. We have a tendency to insult ourselves and beat ourselves up, because we aren’t good enough, or because we have been disrespected growing up, or bullied, that we have no reservations in hating how we are, or calling ourselves disrespectful names.Allah says in the Quran:
Oh those who believe, don’t let people ridicule other people; perhaps they are better; and also women to other women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult yourselves and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the word of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers. 49:11
If you look at the red highlight, that is the point I want to focus on. The Arabic word chosen by Allah includes yourself. So not only are we not allowed to disrespect others, but we are forbidden from disrespecting our ownselves. Some things that are included in this,
“Oh I’m so stupid, I can’t do this, I’m not good enough, why am I such a loser. Why can’t I do things right? Why do I look so ugly? Why am I such a basket case? I’m not worth anything. I’m a good for nothing waste of space. I always screw things up. I’m so disgusting. I hate how I am……………………………………………………………………………..”
All of this is اسم فسوق بعد الإيمان . (wretched words after having iman)
Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan explains this ayah beautifully in his Quran cover to cover series. Take a look. And feedback ladies and gentlemen.