Do you ever feel like you opened up to somebody, and confided in them, only to find that their response and reaction was not that great? That they didn’t seem interested or even appear to care about what you felt was a memorable part of your life? You may even have felt they were belittling that memory you opened up and shared with them?
This has happened to me a lot . We’ve learned to defend ourselves from this feeling of hurt by mentally belittling them, “well they don’t matter anyways.”. “they need to get a life.”. Or maybe we get mad at them and ignore anything else they say on purpose. Or when they want to open up and relate to us in some way, we take that as an opportunity to stab back at them and intentionally show our disinterest to what they are happily telling us about. We do all this as a payback. Why? Because we feel hurt by them.
We believe deep down inside that if others dislike and show disinterest in who we are and what we have to say, that it proves we are devalued, useless, and worthless. “why else would they have reacted they way they did? If I was good and a significant person, they for sure wouldn’t have said or acted that way to me.”
How many of you relate to this? Let me know below in the comments.
What we need to do is shift our definition of what makes us good, valuable, significant, and worthy individuals. This I believe is the key. We were created for a purpose, which is to be servants and slaves of Allah.
وما خلقت الجن و الإنس إلا ليعبدون
I didn’t create the Jinn and the Human except to serve Me. 51:56
If we are fulfilling our duty as a slave to our Rabb (Master). Then guess what? That very fact is what makes us people of value. Anything that fulfills its purpose becomes valuable by definition. And anything that doesn’t fulfill its purpose becomes worthless by definition. Just because people like what we have to say is not the measuring stick of what makes us significant, good people. We are only valuable and good people if we fulfill the purpose we were created for.