Often times, when dealing with my anxieties, I am perplexed as to why I am still reacting fearfully though logically there is nothing to be anxious of.
A simple example, when my son wakes up and walks in on me in the morning doing something on the computer. he’s just looking at me and I feel anxious. I mean what’s there to be anxious about? it’s just my 2 year old son who is the farthest away from judging me or holding a grudge. So why do I still react anxiously?
The answer to this lies in exploring the roots. I have found that in dealing with my social anxieties, the best way to address the anxiety is to attempt to uncover where the anxiety was FIRST planted. The memory of the people and circumstances helps to bring up the roots that my anxiety is being fueled.
It for sure is not easy to see the roots, because often times it was long forgotten and covered by other events and interactions. Only when you get to the root causes, can you uproot the weeds and rebuild the truth about the situation you’re currently dealing with. At least that’s the way I see it working for me, because just looking logically at situations in the present moment and trying to see that there’s nothing scary about it has never affected my emotional reaction positively. My anxiety still remained. And I would usually get frustrated that it’s still there, though I logically can see that there is nothing to be anxious about.
Roots are hidden, just like the roots of a tree. It may take some time to uncover them. It may surprise you as to what the actual roots are, but when you find them, you will surely feel them, and then hopefully insha’Allah be able to emotionally rationalize the true reality of what’s going on. That’s all for now folks……..